February 2016

The author of “Twenty Tips for Your First Abortion” says more about the experience than she perhaps intended. By David Mills. February 24, 2016.

When you have your first abortion, go home and make jokes. Sit down and talk about “how you were ‘killin’ it’ today and laugh with your friends.” That’s the advice of “a waitress in Minneapolis” with the improbable name of Madeleine Roe, who offers “Twenty Tips for Your First Abortion.”

Her advice, given on the “badass feminist” site, Paper Darts, wavers between treating the abortion as “no big deal” (as she says in tip four) and instructions that indicate she knows it is a big deal, like “Drink heavily” and then, “Drink some more” (as she advises in the very next tip). She tries to write in a light and breezy style, but what she has to say undermines her way of saying it. The baby she never mentions haunts the article. He is what scholars call “the presence of an absence.”

For example, Roe writes (this is tip number four):

Make the appointment. Don’t be offended that the person on the phone doesn’t give a [rude word]. Take the nonchalance as a sign that it is no big deal. It could be a teeth cleaning. A very deep teeth cleaning.

And (tip seven): “It will cost around six hundred dollars. Consider the cost of raising a child. Consider the cost of that Beyoncé concert ticket you almost bought. Now, let it go.”

Then she writes this (tip ten): “If you say nothing, you will see nothing during the ultrasound.” And this (tip three) on the use of Google: “Avoid all images. All of them. Even if it promises to be a cartoon drawing called ‘Olivia the Ovary.’ They will not help you, either.”

And this (tip twelve):

You know the medium-sized metal bowl you use to mix pancake batter? The bowl your parents stored Halloween candy in? That bowl will also be in the room. It is for exactly what you think it is for.

Other writers would not have been so specific, so graphic. They would not have mentioned the thing her intended reader will not want to see in the ultrasound, nor that bowl. But she did, and we should credit her for that.

Rarely do the abortionists (I mean by the word those ideologically committed to it) speak about the reality. They prefer to keep that metal bowl you use to mix pancake batter out of sight. They talk so much about “rights” and “choice” and “empowerment” to draw everyone’s attention away from the truth.

As even the bright and breezy Madeleine Roe reveals when she says “drink heavily,” they know fully well that the thing whose life they want to end is a human child.

You don’t drink heavily and then drink some more after a really deep teeth cleaning. She tries to make the child invisible, but you can see him there anyway. You know what her intended reader would see if she looked at the ultrasound.

Some people may be able to convince themselves that it’s not human, because man can so sear his conscience that he will believe anything he really wants to believe.

But the rest of us, the great majority of us, know the thing in the womb is an unborn boy or girl. Madeleine Roe knows it, though she never says it. The women to whom she’s giving advice know it, or they wouldn’t need the advice.

Madeleine Roe’s “Twenty Tips,” published on that badass feminist site, shows why the issue of abortion will remain a divisive question in our public life, even if a Democratic president packs the Supreme Court with six or seven pro-choice justices. She certainly never intended to do it, and her editors never intended to help her do it, but in so honestly telling women how to get through their first abortion, she affirmed what everyone knows: that abortion stops a beating heart.

David Mills, former executive editor of First Things, is a senior editor of The Stream, editorial director for Ethika Politika and columnist for several Catholic publications. His latest book is Discovering Mary. Follow him on Twitter @DavidMillsWrtng. – See more at: http://aleteia.org/2016/02/24/a-badass-feminist-cant-hide-the-truth-about-abortion/#sthash.nf8wq1i6.dpuf

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QUESTIONS I ANSWERED — It was a very lively show, what one listener called “smashing.”

1. What is the remedy when teenagers start having their “own personalities” and begin struggle with committing to the Catholic Church?

 2. What should a parent do when they catch their teenager committing mortal sin? What do we do when they abuse the freedom we give them?

3.  I’ve been a trucker for the past 15 years. My wife has left me and taken my daughters. The youngest told me not to come to her graduation because she said I had neglected the family. What should I do?

 4. I have a 6 and 3 year old. What steps can I take to help prepare them of the things they will encounter when they get older?

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Death, What a Wonderful Way to Explain It

by Steve Ray on February 23, 2016

Hope you enjoy this. I found it quite nice with a ring of truth to it. When it comes my turn to die, this will be my attitude.

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Misunderstanding the (alleged) “Congo Contraception” Case

February 22, 2016

Misunderstanding the (alleged) ‘Congo contraception’ case by Dr. Edward Peters, Canon Lawyer, Professor at Sacred Heart Seminary, Advisor to the Vatican Even by the standards of his reign, the presser Pope Francis conducted on his return flight from Mexico has provoked an unusual number of questions. I wish to address only one of those here. […]

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“Catholics Come Home” Book now available

February 22, 2016

Catholics Come Home’s Tom Peterson has a special offer: Catholics Come Home Book Now $1.99!  Today, for a limited time, you can purchase the Kindle eBook edition of my popular evangelization book, Catholics Come Home: God’s Extraordinary Plan for Your Life, for just $1.99! That’s more than 80% off the normal price!  What if you […]

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12 Reasons why Sports Fans don’t to to the Game; Why Catholics don’t go to Mass :-)

February 20, 2016

This is very clever. Sure rings of the truth – enjoy!

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Jimmy Akins: “Pope Francis Speaks on Hot-Button Issues: 9 Things to Know and Share”

February 20, 2016

[Also see Janet Smith’s Article in Catholic World Report also: Contraception Congo Nuns Choosing the Lesser Evil and Conflict of Commandments]  Pope Francis Speaks on Hot-Button Issues: 9 Things to Know and Share During his plane flight back to Rome from Mexico, Pope Francis gave an interview in which he touched on a number of […]

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Pope Francis, Donald Trump, Nuns Using Contractives, Zika Virus and more on the Pope’s Comments to the Press

February 18, 2016

Seven quick thoughts on the most recent papal presser by Dr. Edward Peters Frankly, I don’t know how he does it. When I fly to Europe I have to sleep all the way over.  Not Pope Francis. Anyway, may I offer some comments on some topics mentioned in the latest mid-air papal presser? 1. Pope Paul […]

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Why Rayla Left Calvary Chapel and Evangelical Protestantism

February 18, 2016

Rayla sent me an email and gave me permission to share it. Calvary Chapel (my wife Janet was associated with them in her younger days) boasts that 80% of their members are “ex-Catholics.” Thanks for sharing Rayla! I came across your blog and am very impressed. After being raised Baptist, them attending Calvary Chapels for […]

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Quick Summary of Common Declaration Signed by Pope and Russian Patriarch

February 13, 2016

30 Paragraphs that cover a variety of themes. Written on February 11, 2010 by Kathllen Naab Patriarch Kirill, the leader of the Russian Orthodox Church, and Pope Francis joyously signed a common declaration today in Havana, following a 2.5 hour meeting between the two. The 30-paragraph statement covers a variety of themes.   Here is a […]

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Want a Lenten Challenge that Won’t Kill You? Join Fr. Mitch Pacwa!

February 11, 2016

The LentenMercyChallenge was developed by MyConsecration.org to help others grow closer to Christ during this Year of Mercy through Prayer and Fasting. Take a look below and see if you want to take up the challenge! Fr. Mitch Pacwa gives a 1.5 minute explanation and challenge. For more info, visit http://www.lentenmercychallenge.org

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UNESCO Adds the Baptismal Site of Jesus to the World Heritage Sites

February 9, 2016

This is an exciting development which helps establish the authentic baptismal site of Jesus. With the involvement of UNESCO the site will receive protection, funding and recognition. This is the place where the last three popes commemorated the Baptism of Our Lord. Here are some articles about UNESCO’s decision and about the site: http://www.catholicculture.org/news/headlines/index.cfm?storyid=27394 http://whc.unesco.org/en/list/1446 […]

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Just did a big radio show and told them I’d give info on our pilgrimages, so here it is

February 8, 2016

For our many trips every year to the Holy Land and our other Biblical and Catholic pilgrimages. Here is the cover of the brochure for the Family Holy Land Pilgrimage — the one that my grandkids are going to and Terry Barber with his family as well. Visit www.FootprintsOfGod.com or call Suzanne at 800-727-1999, ext. […]

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A True Story: The “Hail Mary” of a Protestant is Powerful

February 4, 2016

The “Hail Mary” of a Protestant is powerful!—( A True Story) A little six-year-old Protestant boy had often heard his Catholic companion reciting the prayer ‘Hail Mary.’ He liked it so much that he copied it, memorized it and would recite it every day. ‘Look, Mummy, what a beautiful prayer,’ he said to his mother […]

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What Happened to the Apostles after the New Testament?

February 2, 2016

 

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Steve Ray on EWTN’s Journey Home this Week

February 2, 2016

              Join Steve Ray and Marcus Grodi this week as Steve returns for the 7th time to discuss his conversion to the Catholic Church. Video now on-line at http://www.ewtn.com/tv/live/journeyhome.asp 

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