Why it is Best NOT to Keep our Kids Safe all the Time: Excellent Article & Video Lecture

by Steve Ray on February 26, 2020

I would suggest everyone raising kids should read this article and watch this video speech. It is essential listening for families raising kids and for any young people going to university or college. Great stuff! It is the way we instinctively raised our kids and it worked!!

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Of course we want to keep children safe. But exposure to normal stresses and strains is vital for their future wellbeing

2048Nassim Taleb invented the word “antifragile” and used it in his book by the same name to describe a small but very important class of systems that gain from shocks, challenges, and disorder. Bones and the banking system are two examples; both get weaker – and more prone to catastrophic failure – if they go for a long time without any stressors and then face a major challenge.

The immune system is an even better example: it requires exposure to certain kinds of germs and potential allergens in childhood in order to develop to its full capacity. Parents who treat their children as if they are fragile (for example, by keeping them away from dirt and potential allergens, such as peanuts) are depriving their children’s immature immune systems of the learning experiences those systems need to develop their maximum protective capacity.

Children’s social and emotional abilities are as antifragile as their immune systems. If we overprotect kids and keep them “safe” from unpleasant social situations and negative emotions, we deprive them of the challenges and opportunities for skill-building they need to grow strong. Such children are likely to suffer more when exposed later to other unpleasant but ordinary life events, such as teasing and social exclusion.

For the whole article (5-10 minute read) click HERE.

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